So, what’s going on down there?
Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't.
Maybe you can get an erection but keeping it is the problem. Maybe it's not as firm as it used to be. Maybe everything works perfectly well on your own but throws a tantrum when somebody else is in the room.
Or maybe lately, absolutely nothing is happening and you're thinking, what the hell is going on?
There are plenty of reasons erections can change — physical, medical, hormonal, psychological, medication, stress, prostate treatment, relationships, confidence, age and sometimes a bit of everything.
I'm not going to take one look at you and decide it's all in your head.
And I'm not going to assume it's all physical either.
Let's find out a little more about what your body is actually doing.
That's where this session comes in.
We take away the pressure.
You're not here to prove you can get an erection. I'm certainly not sitting there with a stopwatch waiting for one.
We slow things right down. Breathing. Being present. Slow, intentional touch and intimate bodywork.
And we see what happens.
You might get an erection. Great.
You might get one and lose it. Also useful to know.
Nothing might happen at all. That's okay too.
You might orgasm. You might not.
We're not chasing any of it.
I'm interested in how your body responds when you're relaxed, receiving touch and there's nobody expecting anything from you.
Because whatever happens gives us another piece of the puzzle.
And no, this isn't a test.
The last thing a bloke having erection problems needs is another situation where he's thinking:
Fuck. I hope it works.
So don't.
There is no pass or fail.
I'm not judging your erection. I'm not disappointed if you don't get one. And you're not here to perform for me.
Your only job is to breathe, stay present and let your body do whatever it's going to do.
I'll do the observing.
Then we have a chat.
This is an important part of the session.
I'm a Psychosexual Therapist, so I'm interested in far more than whether you got an erection.
We'll talk about what happened, what you noticed, what I noticed and how that fits with what's been happening outside Viktor.
And I'll give you my professional thoughts on where we go from there.
Maybe there's something we should work on together.
Maybe I want you to have a chat with your GP or urologist because there's something physical worth investigating.
Maybe it's a bit of both.
Or maybe we simply need more information.
We're not diagnosing anything from one 30-minute session. We're getting curious about what's going on.
Who comes in for this?
Blokes come to me saying all sorts of things:
“I can get hard, but I lose it.”
“It works when it's just me.”
“It's just not as hard anymore.”
“The minute I start thinking about it, it's gone.”
“I come way too quickly.”
“I can go forever and still can't finish.”
“I can't orgasm at all.”
“Everything changed after prostate treatment.”
“I don't know. It just stopped working properly.”
Sometimes they know exactly when it started.
Sometimes they have absolutely no bloody idea.
You don't need to know why before you come in.
That's my job — to help you explore what's happening, what might be contributing to it and where we go from here.